The "frontal assault" method seems to be working!
I have a three commitments on Jdate and a ongoing conversation about Hockey on OKCupid.
For the most part, online dating has been revealed (to me) to be a very one-sided competition. Women, without considering their selectivity, get a higher rate of email traffic and initiated conversations than men do. Somehow, I think this gap is quite significant. But I think I can accept that fact. I look at this as a digital reflection of a more traditional dating formality. While there has been a liberalization of the role of women and men in the dating dynamic, there is still a high presence of male-initiated conversation. This has nothing to do with some sort of anachronistic, bygone idea of traditional roles, but more of a transition of the dating/relationship/marriage scene to a modern, digital era. It reflects only a prima facie incarnation of the relationship dynamic. Once you delve into the details, it reveals to be a much more progressive activity where initiation of relationships becomes gender non-specific. With my experience, I refer to relationships with the heteronormative filter, as I have no experience or knowledge of the homosexual (or transgender) dynamic. And, the statement is meant to be an admittance of ignorance, not a assumption of the existence of a different dynamic between homosexual, transgender and/or heterosexual dating/relationships/marriage.
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