It did...kinda
But, there is one blog I came across that had a very skewed perspective. It was online dating from a woman's perspective. Call me sexist, but her opinions are as useful to me as a solar powered flash light. She suggests that those who are not used to rejection should not be dating on the interwebs in the first place. She also said that there will be bad dates. Here is my problem: She has gone on many dates, seen many men and is able to filter out those who she thinks aren't relationship material. She is a serial dater. For women on dating websites, this dynamic is near-universal. I hear complaints about "creeps," "loners," "Ed Hardy wearing," "douchey"and "clingers." They are vague on what they want, but get angry when it doesn't go their way. But, they can be picky. They can be choosy, snobby, selective, rigorous, scrupulous, prudent and prude and they will eventually get what they want.
What I want: a date. To get to know you. To see if there is some sort of attractiveness or connection on a mental or emotional level. Or, maybe you'll end being a friend. Someone I can confide in and trust. Or, there could be nothing.
I have come to realization that online dating is a digital mirror of what I have been unsuccessful at in the real world. Women get the smorgasbord, get to choose the best sushi from the buffet and can leave the rest for the alley dumpster. When I am down on myself, the generic "keep trying" and "don't give up" and "you'll find someone" sounds all too familiar. And that familiarity makes me cynical.
Peace.
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